Sometimes, I have pretty high expectations for myself. I like things to be perfect, in a certain way, in a certain order, and when they’re not…..I get a little frazzled.
Sometimes, I’ve even put these expectations onto others. I think….hmmm…well, I would do this, that, and the other thing for them, so why don’t they do that for me? ( Chuckle…Who do I think I am anyway?)
Having these high expectations for myself and others, gets me into trouble. I often feel as if I don’t measure up, or I am not good enough, if I can not reach that elusive goal. I also get my feelings hurt, if the famous, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto”, statement is not met in my eyes.
Through all of this, God is teaching me that it’s ok, not to be perfect. The truth is I can’t be, nor do I even have to be. Who I am in God’s eyes, is the way He designed me to be, I don’t need to be anymore, or any less.
I also don’t need to try and turn someone else into who they were not meant to be with my high expectations. In Ephesians 4:16 His word states, “He makes the whole body fit together perfectly. As each part does its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love.” God meant for each of us to be unique and to have different jobs to fulfill His high calling. He did not mean for us to act in the same way.
What about you? Do you have high expectations for yourselves or others? Does this ever get you into trouble? If so, what have you done to grow or change in this area?
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I do have high expectations for myself. I get discouraged when I can’t meet those expectations. I’ve learned too that my expectations for my kids are high. I like that you pointed out how we are all made differently and for a purpose. Great post!
Thank you Christina. Have a wonderful day!
Ah, yes! Expectations are one of the most detrimental things to relationships. Early in our marriage, I had to let go of expectations and just love my man. It has been such a HUGE blessing in our marriage. And now, I am learning to do that with everyone. Letting go of expectations allows me to fully rest in the blessings in my life (and to actually see them!). Thanks for a great post (and beautiful blog!)!
Thank you. I am so glad you stopped by. Have a great day.
Shari
When I read your first two paragraphs … I had to stop and remind myself that I had not written this blog post even though I often have those same thoughts! At times I refer to myself as a “recovering perfectionist” … I am trying to accept the fact that stuff doesn’t have to go the way it is expected to all the time! Thanks for sharing this today!
Oh goodness, yes, I see myself so much in your words. Thankful to have your encouragement today!! Will fb message something for you for next week as you requested 🙂 Blessings on your day!
Yes, yes, YES! I know! So many times the expectations I put on myself end up hurting my family because I become this monster who has to have things done to meet my expectations and ideals. So not fair of me. Definitely something I’m working on…
I definitely have high expectations of myself. I need to have the house just so, the magazine and each blog post without error (which I always find errors), and everything just right. I feel like God is always telling me to just do my best and enjoy my family and ministry. Thank you for this encouragement!
Oh boy! Do I have high expectations of myself and others :/ It can be quite frustrating at times! Combine my high expectations with a hubby that plans on the very last min. at times….well….it’s a rough sea here sometimes! lol! Thanks for sharing! Stoppin by from FMF 🙂 http://www.simplyhelpinghim.com